Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

Can Comparing Yourself To Others Be Good For You?

The answer to this is a resounding “Yes” if you do this in the right way. What most people tend to do is compare themselves to others as some form of validation for themselves or because of envy or some other negative emotion.

The secret to comparing yourself to others for your benefit is to do it on the premise that you want to improve yourself. You want to achieve a specific goal and another person has already achieved this goal so you can learn from them and then use similar strategies in your own life.

You must have the right Intent

Having the right intent for comparing yourself to another person is critical. What we do not recommend you do is compare yourself to someone else that you know is not as good as you in a specific area so that you can give your ego a boost. Avoid this kind of “self validation”.

You may get a temporary ego boost from a self validation comparison but this can backfire on you very badly. If you don’t know the person that you are comparing to very well then you have no idea what they are capable of. If you challenge them and they end up being better than you at your specialty then this can destroy your self esteem.

Think about why you want to make the comparison. Let’s say that you want to be a successful business manager and there is a manager in your office who always seems to make the right decisions and has the level of confidence that you want to achieve.

You want to find out how they got to their position and how they maintain their confidence. This is specific intent and you are in the right frame of mind to make the comparison. You are not jealous that this person is a manager and you are not. It is all about learning from the person so that you can improve your life.

Consume other relevant information

The person in your office is not the only good business manager out there. Many have written books and some have their own blog. These days it is easier than it ever has been before to get the information that you need.

Once you have decided that you want to be a top notch business manager consume everything that you can about the subject and keep looking for new material. Modeling the business manager you know is a good step forward but you can always do more.

If you are not a fan of reading then go to YouTube and find relevant videos there. You will be sure to find what you are looking for. Also look for forums on your subject and join them and participate. Ask questions and most people will be happy to help.

Be careful of your Self View

You have a view about yourself that you formed over many years. This self view tells you that you things like you are smart, good looking, talented and so on. We all need this self view because it defines how you see the world around you and helps you to figure everything out.

The problem is that if you believe something in your self view and something challenges this then there is conflict. So if you believe that you know a lot about business and someone tells you that you need to learn more about business then this is difficult to take. Relax your self view and take on board any constructive criticisms.

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Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
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How to be More Independent Boosting Self Confidence

How to be More Independent

If you want to be more confident, then you also need to be more independent.

After all, self-confidence is all about having faith in your own ability and your own decisions. If you don’t know how to be alone, or don’t feel you can do things without the help of others, then you won’t have true confidence!

The problem is that many of us struggle to be alone, or to do things for ourselves. Part of this comes down to a sheer lack of practice. If you went straight from living with your parents, to living with a partner, then you may never have truly experienced fending for yourself. And living with friends isn’t necessarily much different.

Likewise, some of us will spend all of our spare time with others, to the point that we don’t have much identity or much purpose when left to our own devices. If you can’t stand the thought of spending an evening alone, then you need a quick boost in independence. So how do you get it?

Practice

The first way to be more independent is… to practice!

One of the best ways to do this is to drop yourself in at the deep end as it were. That means packing a bag and heading off on a trip alone for a couple of weeks. The more of an adventure this is, the better. So that might mean backpacking and talking to strangers, or it might meaning travelling somewhere where no-one speaks the language.

It might just surprise you what you’re capable of when left to your own devices!

Another way to practice is just to avoid the temptation to call for help the next time something goes wrong. DIY is a great place to experiment with this. Has the toilet stopped flushing? Do you have a hole in the wall that looks unsightly? Instead of calling for help, bring up YouTube and try to sort it yourself. This is hugely empowering and can do wonders for your esteem, as well as making you far less dependent on others.

Find Your Identity

Simply spending a little time alone is also a good idea. Even if you live with a partner, try too spend time apart just to pursue your own interests.

Finding a hobby is actually one of the most important things you can do to boost your independence, as this way you’ll always have something to entertain your thoughts.

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Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Finding Your Confidence

Boost Your Self Confidence

Confidence tips that work

It’s a myth that winners don’t require any motivational or confidence tips. They require good self-assurance tips frequently to keep up their motivational level. From the time you get your confidence tips make sure you apply them in order to transform the existing quality of life.

Confidence is necessary to achieve success in life. Some effective confidence tips must be followed if you genuinely want to gain accomplishment in your work. So how do you build your confidence that will work for you in any situation? Initially, make an effort to spend time with confident people.

Their vigor and strength is so stirring that you will surely feel yourself more powerful just by listening to their talk. To build confidence it is vital that you are in the midst of self-assuring people. This will help you derive great confidence from them. All you have to do is ask them for good confidence tips. Secondly, make sure that you find a mentor.

All successful people have mentors in life, those who can efficiently guide you, advise you and also offer some confidence tips. The person can help you considerably and you can taste success more quickly than you ever imagined. Two minds are always better than one. Try to understand that confidence is just a feeling.

Think about all the situations where you have felt confident. Such positive thoughts can make you confident in future. Sit down for a few minutes everyday and analyse the happenings during your day. Imagine all the things that make you feel certain. This can boost your morale and make you even more poise.

List all your reasons to be confident.

Try and list all the qualities that have helped you to be confident today. Include your victories, skills and also mention about your goals. After you have done this you will see how powerful your analysis can be. It will make you feel even more confident. The most important confidence tip can be preparation. Continuous preparation makes you perfect and you attain confidence.

Have you ever watched a sportsman playing effortlessly or stars performing live on stage? How do they give such a flawless performance? Preparation makes you more and more perfect. It is necessary that you keep honing your skills to achieve perfection and this automatically will augment your level of confidence.

Self-comparison is another key to enhance your confidence. Learn to compare your progress in life with respect to your previous results. Look at other successful people and learn not to measure just your success. When you put in more efforts on the daily improvement of your individual skills and capabilities you can grow very rapidly and your confidence will surge.

Confidence without capability is a perilous combination. It is necessary that you only engage in self-comparison when you are assessing your development. By doing this you will make it easier when the going gets rough and your proficiency will grow day-by-day.

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Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
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How to Believe in Yourself more

Lack of self confidence and low self esteem can be crippling and debilitating.  They can stop a person from socialising, hinder progress at work and within relationships and generally erode a person’s enjoyment of a full and wonderful life.

People with a lack of self confidence or low self esteem are usually acutely aware of their errors and chide themselves for ‘doing it wrong’. They take things extremely personally and struggle with personal criticism because it feeds directly into their negative belief system. To make themselves feel better they often resort to putting others down in order to feel better and literally cannot help themselves.

Usually lack of self confidence and low self esteem are established at a young age as a result of actions or words by a parent, sibling or carer, intentionally or unintentionally.  As the young mind develops negative beliefs such as ‘not being good enough’ or ‘worthy’ are so firmly planted that the negative cycle pattern simply continues.

By using hypnotherapy and coaching the negative belief system is challenged and re-wired. It’s like taking off a pair of dirty glasses you have worn for years and replacing them with a fresh pair that are crystal clear. Confidence is key in everything you do.  Let me help you to truly believe in yourself and that you can be confident at all times.

Why to use hypnotherapy would build your trust in who you are and what you can do.

As you relax and listen in your session, you'll notice that

• your expectations of yourself begin to rise

• you feel very curious to discover what you can do

• you are less concerned about mistakes and more interested in what you can learn

• you sense a growing feeling of power and capability within you

• you trust yourself implicitly to learn more and become increasingly skillful in whatever you give your full attention to

• life starts to be so much more enjoyable

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Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Personal Transformation Mastery

How Increased Confidence Can Help You Get What You Want

This might sound like the cheesy-kind of advice your parents might have given you, but it really is true that confidence can get you pretty much whatever you want. That and being yourself.

If you want to get a date, succeed in your career or otherwise take any aspect of your life to the next level, then boosting your confidence is one of the best ways to accomplish that. Here’s why…

What Confidence Really Means

If you have ever met an alpha male, or a woman who just seems to have everything under control, then you might have noticed that they are usually very confident. The truth is that the whole reason they appear so successful is that confidence. That’s because confidence sends a powerful signal – it says ‘I consider myself to be a catch’.

Speaking in evolutionary terms, confidence suggests that you are a good potential mate, or a superior competitor. Even if someone is short, poorly dressed and unappealing – if they are supremely confidence then it will seem as though they know something you don’t. The assumption is that they must have a reason to be that confident.

And thus we instantly assume that this person is somehow our superior: that we should try to impress them, or try to be more like them. That’s why we gravitate toward confident people, want to date them and want to be liked by them.

A lot of people don’t realise the importance of confidence and they think it is enough to be nice. They assume that by acting nice, they will get people to like them and they can that way overcome their looks, their stature, or their status.

But if you don’t have any self-confidence and you act very nice, then this can actually backfire: it starts to seem as though you want something and that you are being a creep in order to get it.

Conversely, if you act a little less needy, if you can show yourself to be highly capable and impressive and then you chat to someone in a friendly and open manner… then people will be won over by your charm and your appeal. This niceness seems much more genuine because you appear like you don’t need help from everyone.

So guys: stop trying to win the girl by being nice.

Employees, stop trying to get the job by being self-deprecating.

Act like you know your worth and then layer niceness on top of that. That is the winning combination!

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Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Overcome Rejection Sensitivity

Become more confident and discover better ways to connect with others

Do you find yourself on high alert for even the smallest sign of rejection when talking with others?

Do you have a tendency to anxiously replay conversations in your head, wondering what exactly someone meant?

Everyone wants to feel accepted and welcomed. It's human nature. We are social animals, and relationships are important to us. They help us understand the world and ourselves. So it's no wonder feeling rejected hurts so badly.

No one likes to feel rejected. But for some people, this very natural response is dialed up.

Being sensitive to rejection can make you feel anxious and lead to unpleasant overthinking. You may feel as though you are constantly on the lookout for signs that someone dislikes you. You may convince yourself that any negative or non-enthusiastic part of a conversation was caused by you. You might even feel that your friends or family members are slow to reply to your text messages because they are mad at you.

The niggling thoughts that plague you keep on coming even when you know they're not real. You may know on a logical level that your friend didn't reply because they are busy at work, that your brother is in a grumpy mood because he didn't sleep well, or that a co-worker is always negative. But you just can't stop yourself from feeling like it's personal.

But as deeply ingrained as these responses and feelings may seem, there is hope.

Living with rejection sensitivity

For many people, rejection sensitivity starts at a young age. Perhaps you didn't feel supported. Maybe you felt a particularly harsh rejection that stuck with you. Or maybe you didn't grow up in an environment that gave you self-confidence. Whatever the origins of your sensitivity to rejection, the effects can be significant and debilitating.

Excessive sensitivity to rejection can often stop you from building meaningful relationships, as you may end up pushing people away before they get too close in an effort to protect yourself. And if you are constantly seeking reassurance from friends or family members, it can also take its toll on the close relationships you do have.

You may even end up deciding that having close friendships is simply not worth it. Rather than face the anxiety of inviting someone to a movie or restaurant, or even just to your home for a cup of tea, you may decide it's easier to do things alone.

But of course, in the long term this kind of approach is not sustainable. A lack of close relationships can lead to intense loneliness and sadness. Ultimately, it all adds up to a less healthy, fulfilling, and enjoyable life.

How Hypnotherapy can help

As you relax and listen , you'll notice that you:

• Feel more at ease with yourself

• Can stop over analysing people's words

• Are more easy going in your relationships, and enjoy them more

• Are better able to relax and give new friendships time to develop.

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  Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 
  
  Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

  Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
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Steps for Letting Go of Fear and Trusting More

Don’t let fear stop you from achieving everything you want out of life.

Everything that you do and the choices that you make each day determines who you are and the experiences you get from life. If you make these decisions out of fear, you will likely make poor decisions. The following seven steps will help you trust yourself more and stop letting fear take over your life:  

Step 1: Start  

Take a moment to make the commitment to let go of your fears and insecurities. Write your promise down for future reference. Once you do that, create a plan of action for yourself. Don’t expect yourself to just change when overwhelming moments arise. Instead, use your action plan to help you make changes.  

Step 2: Forgive Yourself  

As a living and breathing normal human, you are always going to make mistakes. In fact, if you don’t, you likely won’t grow or learn much as a person. Be prepared for these moments, and give yourself time to forgive yourself. Truly forgive yourself and know that this is only normal and a basic function in life.  

Step 3: Learn to Love & Believe in Yourself  

Actively do things to discover your likes and dislikes to learn who you are. The more you understand yourself, the more you can learn to love yourself and truly believe that you can accomplish anything.  

Step 4: Listen More  

Listen to yourself, but most importantly, to those around you. Make sure you are still taking the time to notice information people give and show you.  

Step 5: Feel More Even Fear  

In other words, go with the flow. Even when you are scared, if your life or health isn’t in jeopardy, it is essential to feel the emotions to overcome the fear. Getting beyond your comfort zone allows you to build and grow and understand yourself fully. You will see it isn’t so scary once you do it, too, and will eventually develop a full understanding of oneself and feel accomplished.  

Step 6: Understand Your Feelings  

If you find yourself holding back and feeling fear, truly figure out the parts that make you feel this way. If its meeting new people, what about that makes you scared. Is it because they won’t like you or judge you? What are the consequences, and isn’t all that big of a deal if you take the time to think about it? You just might see that ultimately the consequences are worth the risk.  

Step 7: Only Control What You Know, Not the Unknown  

Unfortunately, predicting the future isn’t possible. However, you can set up good habits or do things that lead you to success. While there is no sure-fire way to determine that everything you do will be right. One day, this may be challenged; however, that is the beauty of life. Stop wasting your time thinking about what may or may not happen. Focus on the now. You only have this very moment, so use it wisely.  

If you keep following these seven steps and one day, you will see how much easier life can truly be just by simply letting go and trusting yourself.  

Please contact Me, Kimberley, if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 

Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

How to Build Your Self Esteem With Hypnotherapy

Break the negative trance of low self esteem with a gentle, permissive Hypnotherapy session.

The effects of low self esteem are all around us.

Broken or dysfunctional relationships, academic underachievement, feelings of loneliness and isolation, and behaviour that damages health and life prospects all have roots in low self esteem.

Why high self esteem isn't the answer

It might seem that high self esteem would be a great thing, but high self esteem can bring its own problems.

A little bit of doubt or caution before you go feet first into something forces you to consider more carefully how your actions might affect, for good or bad, the outcome.

So, how much self esteem is right for you?

The effects of low self esteem

Your opinion of yourself, what you think of your own 'worth', really does make a difference to your life. If you mistakenly value yourself too low, you may:

• blame yourself for things that aren't your fault

• underestimate your own abilities

• expect things to go wrong for you

Low self esteem may stop you from socialising and keeping friendships alive, cutting yourself off from the world. Low self esteem may cause you to drink excessively or look for other 'highs' to give your life some excitement.

Or maybe it simply stops you from doing what you want to do, as you've run out of energy or belief that you're worth it and it's worth pursuing.

Why does looking after your self esteem matter?

When you have a more balanced view of yourself, you can;

• be much fairer to yourself

• be more objective about your strong points

• have more confidence in your abilities

• feel calmer when you think about yourself and your future

• think more positively about life generally

So, rather than going flat out for high self esteem, the best way forward is to work on building it to a healthy level that will help you get more out of life and feel more comfortable with yourself. Maybe your self esteem right now hovers around a low 1 or 2 out of 10, but you'd settle for feeling more like a 7 or 8 out of 10.

With higher self esteem, you will start to socialise more and believe you've got something to say that's worth hearing. You will stop abusing your body and look after you physical health better. You will say yes more at work, or school and start to progress towards what you want out of life.

How Hypnotherapy can improve self esteem

The trouble with low self esteem is that it generally stems from emotions that are created at an unconscious level. Which is why conscious efforts to think better of yourself rarely work.

And this is where Hypnosis comes in. Hypnosis is the art of communicating with the unconscious mind, and so we can use it to update the old patterns that are driving low self esteem. It will:

• relax you incredibly deeply

• remind you of your good qualities (that sometimes may be difficult to appreciate)

• improve your self confidence

• give you the inner strength to come through difficult times

• help you feel better about yourself

• improve your social and working relationships

Please contact Me if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 

Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.