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From Self-Doubt to Self-Assured: A Practical Guide to Building Unshakable Confidence

From Self-Doubt to Self-Assured: A Practical Guide to Building Unshakable Confidence

Do you often find yourself doubting your abilities or constantly seeking validation from others? Are you tired of feeling insecure and unsure of yourself? Building self-confidence is a journey that requires patience, perseverance, and the right tools. In this practical guide, we will explore the key strategies and techniques that can help you overcome self-doubt and build unshakable confidence. From identifying limiting beliefs to setting achievable goals, we will delve into the steps that you can take to boost your self-esteem and cultivate a positive mindset. Along the way, we will also discuss the importance of self-care, self-compassion, and embracing your unique strengths and talents. Whether you're looking to excel in your career, relationships, or personal growth, this guide will equip you with the skills and mindset needed to become self-assured and confident in all aspects of your life. So, let's dive in and start your journey towards unshakable confidence!


Understanding Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is the belief in oneself and one's abilities. It is an essential ingredient for success in all areas of life. When you are self-confident, you trust yourself and your decisions, and you are less likely to be affected by the opinions of others. Self-confidence is not something that you are born with; it is something that you develop over time. It is a skill that can be learned and improved upon.

One of the keys to building self-confidence is understanding the role that negative self-talk plays in our lives. Negative self-talk is the internal dialogue that we have with ourselves, and it can be incredibly damaging to our self-esteem. When we engage in negative self-talk, we reinforce our limiting beliefs and create a negative self-image. To overcome negative self-talk, we need to identify our limiting beliefs and challenge them. We can do this by asking ourselves questions like, "Is this belief true?" and "What evidence do I have to support this belief?" By challenging our limiting beliefs, we can start to reframe our thoughts and create a more positive self-image.

Another important aspect of building self-confidence is setting achievable goals. Setting goals can help us to focus our energy and efforts, and it gives us something to work towards. When we achieve our goals, we feel a sense of accomplishment, which can boost our self-confidence. It's essential to set goals that are realistic and attainable. If we set goals that are too high, we may become discouraged and give up. On the other hand, if we set goals that are too low, we may not feel challenged, and our self-confidence may not grow.

The Connection between Mental Health and Confidence

Mental health plays a significant role in our self-confidence. When we are struggling with our mental health, it can be challenging to feel confident in ourselves and our abilities. It's essential to prioritize our mental health and seek help when we need it. There are many resources available, such as therapy, support groups, and self-help books.

One of the most effective ways to improve our mental health is through mindfulness. Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment and observing our thoughts and feelings without judgment. By practicing mindfulness, we can become more aware of our negative thought patterns and learn to let them go. Mindfulness can also help us to manage stress and anxiety, which can be major obstacles to building self-confidence.

Another way to improve our mental health is to focus on building mental strength. Mental strength is the ability to overcome challenges and adversity. It's the resilience and grit that we need to push through difficult times. Building mental strength takes time and effort, but it's a crucial aspect of building self-confidence. We can build mental strength by setting small goals and pushing ourselves outside of our comfort zones. By doing this, we can prove to ourselves that we are capable of overcoming obstacles and achieving success.

The Importance of Self-Care and Self-Compassion

Self-care and self-compassion are essential components of building self-confidence. Self-care is the practice of taking care of our physical, emotional, and mental health. It's about making time for ourselves and doing things that make us feel good. When we practice self-care, we are sending a message to ourselves that we are worthy of love and attention.

Self-compassion is the practice of treating ourselves with kindness and understanding. It's about recognizing that we are only human and that we will make mistakes. When we practice self-compassion, we are less likely to beat ourselves up over our shortcomings. We can also be more forgiving and understanding of others, which can help build stronger relationships.

One of the best ways to practice self-care and self-compassion is by embracing our unique strengths and talents. We all have something that makes us special, and when we embrace these qualities, we can feel more confident in ourselves. We can also use our strengths to achieve our goals and make a positive impact on the world.

Conclusion

Building self-confidence is not an easy journey, but it is a worthwhile one. By understanding the role of negative self-talk, setting achievable goals, prioritizing our mental health, and practicing self-care and self-compassion, we can build unshakable confidence. It's important to remember that building self-confidence takes time and effort, but the rewards are well worth it. When we are self-confident, we are more likely to achieve our goals, build strong relationships, and live a fulfilling life. So, take the first step on your journey towards self-assurance today!

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Stop Worrying What Other People Think Of You

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Can Comparing Yourself To Others Be Good For You?

The answer to this is a resounding “Yes” if you do this in the right way. What most people tend to do is compare themselves to others as some form of validation for themselves or because of envy or some other negative emotion.

The secret to comparing yourself to others for your benefit is to do it on the premise that you want to improve yourself. You want to achieve a specific goal and another person has already achieved this goal so you can learn from them and then use similar strategies in your own life.

You must have the right Intent

Having the right intent for comparing yourself to another person is critical. What we do not recommend you do is compare yourself to someone else that you know is not as good as you in a specific area so that you can give your ego a boost. Avoid this kind of “self validation”.

You may get a temporary ego boost from a self validation comparison but this can backfire on you very badly. If you don’t know the person that you are comparing to very well then you have no idea what they are capable of. If you challenge them and they end up being better than you at your specialty then this can destroy your self esteem.

Think about why you want to make the comparison. Let’s say that you want to be a successful business manager and there is a manager in your office who always seems to make the right decisions and has the level of confidence that you want to achieve.

You want to find out how they got to their position and how they maintain their confidence. This is specific intent and you are in the right frame of mind to make the comparison. You are not jealous that this person is a manager and you are not. It is all about learning from the person so that you can improve your life.

Consume other relevant information

The person in your office is not the only good business manager out there. Many have written books and some have their own blog. These days it is easier than it ever has been before to get the information that you need.

Once you have decided that you want to be a top notch business manager consume everything that you can about the subject and keep looking for new material. Modeling the business manager you know is a good step forward but you can always do more.

If you are not a fan of reading then go to YouTube and find relevant videos there. You will be sure to find what you are looking for. Also look for forums on your subject and join them and participate. Ask questions and most people will be happy to help.

Be careful of your Self View

You have a view about yourself that you formed over many years. This self view tells you that you things like you are smart, good looking, talented and so on. We all need this self view because it defines how you see the world around you and helps you to figure everything out.

The problem is that if you believe something in your self view and something challenges this then there is conflict. So if you believe that you know a lot about business and someone tells you that you need to learn more about business then this is difficult to take. Relax your self view and take on board any constructive criticisms.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

Kim on TVM fitAM

Stop Feeling You're Bad

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Develop a warmer, fairer, more objective view of yourself

Do you sometimes think that, underneath it all, you're a bad person?

Do you believe that, if other people were to see the core of who you are, they would dislike or even hate you for what you've done, thought, or felt?

It's easy to let these feelings affect your self-worth.

Have you ever wondered why you feel this way, or when it started? You may not be able to pinpoint when your sense of self-worth plummeted. It may seem like you've always felt this way. But these feelings are not an intrinsic part of who you are, and they can be overcome.

Low self-worth is almost always learned

If you feel that you’re a bad person, it’s likely because you have been taught to feel that way, though even people who grew up without pressure to conform or excel can develop this kind of thinking if they grew up around someone who was self-critical. It’s an easy habit to pick up!

At some point in your life, you may have been treated in such a way that you came to believe that the value of your life depends on whether you meet certain standards, or look or behave a certain way.

If you grew up with sky-high expectations or without unconditional love, it’s no surprise you feel this way. You’ve essentially been taught that unless you accomplish certain things — high test scores, a prestigious career, perfect behaviour — you are not worthy of love and praise. As the chronic feelings of failure mount, they may translate to a sense that, deep down, you’re simply bad.

But here’s the thing.

No one can live up to unrealistic expectations

The truth is, even the most accomplished people have flaws. The most honourable people you can think of, every role model, every tremendously accomplished individual — they’re all imperfect. Everyone has moments in their lives when they’ve failed to meet their own standards, or society’s expectations of model behaviour.

Even people who seemingly have everything experience the same negative emotions that you do at times. Everyone feels jealousy. Everyone experiences regret. Everyone has felt twinges of doubt. It’s part of being human. It’s baked into the experience.

But when you’ve been treated like you don’t have value and are not worth caring about, these perceived “failures” are magnified. You start to believe you deserve to be treated this way. And the longer you believe it, the more it comes to “make sense.” You focus on your flaws, taking these as irrefutable evidence of your intrinsic “badness.” Reality takes a back seat as you become more and more convinced.

Hypnotherapy can help to;

realise that your worth as a person is not tied to your accomplishments

  • develop a much fairer and more accurate view of yourself

  • accept yourself just as you are

  • feel more relaxed and confident in general.

    PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

    Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
     
    Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

    Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
    For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
     
    To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

     

Kimberley on TVM - FitAM

Kimberley on TVM - FitAM