Stop Worrying What Other People Think Of You

Kimberley Stapleton

March 29, 2022

self development, Self Improvement

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Can Comparing Yourself To Others Be Good For You?

The answer to this is a resounding “Yes” if you do this in the right way. What most people tend to do is compare themselves to others as some form of validation for themselves or because of envy or some other negative emotion.

The secret to comparing yourself to others for your benefit is to do it on the premise that you want to improve yourself. You want to achieve a specific goal and another person has already achieved this goal so you can learn from them and then use similar strategies in your own life.

You must have the right Intent

Having the right intent for comparing yourself to another person is critical. What we do not recommend you do is compare yourself to someone else that you know is not as good as you in a specific area so that you can give your ego a boost. Avoid this kind of “self validation”.

You may get a temporary ego boost from a self validation comparison but this can backfire on you very badly. If you don’t know the person that you are comparing to very well then you have no idea what they are capable of. If you challenge them and they end up being better than you at your specialty then this can destroy your self esteem.

Think about why you want to make the comparison. Let’s say that you want to be a successful business manager and there is a manager in your office who always seems to make the right decisions and has the level of confidence that you want to achieve.

You want to find out how they got to their position and how they maintain their confidence. This is specific intent and you are in the right frame of mind to make the comparison. You are not jealous that this person is a manager and you are not. It is all about learning from the person so that you can improve your life.

Consume other relevant information

The person in your office is not the only good business manager out there. Many have written books and some have their own blog. These days it is easier than it ever has been before to get the information that you need.

Once you have decided that you want to be a top notch business manager consume everything that you can about the subject and keep looking for new material. Modeling the business manager you know is a good step forward but you can always do more.

If you are not a fan of reading then go to YouTube and find relevant videos there. You will be sure to find what you are looking for. Also look for forums on your subject and join them and participate. Ask questions and most people will be happy to help.

Be careful of your Self View

You have a view about yourself that you formed over many years. This self view tells you that you things like you are smart, good looking, talented and so on. We all need this self view because it defines how you see the world around you and helps you to figure everything out.

The problem is that if you believe something in your self view and something challenges this then there is conflict. So if you believe that you know a lot about business and someone tells you that you need to learn more about business then this is difficult to take. Relax your self view and take on board any constructive criticisms.

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Kimberley Stapleton

February 24, 2022

Ebooks, self development

What the Heck is the Law of Attraction?

Kimberley Stapleton

February 24, 2022

Ebooks, self development

You may have heard about the Law of Attraction, but you may not know exactly what it is. In essence, it is a philosophy that suggests that you can bring positive or negative experiences into your life simply by focusing on positive or negative thoughts. Basically, it is a universal law that says you will attract such experiences based on your overall mindset, whether it is positive or negative. The Law of Attraction is part of the New Thought Movement, and it can be practiced greatly by focusing on your own thoughts and attitudes.

The Law of Attraction states that you will experience things based on your predominant mental attitude. This means that you if you think positively and encourage uplifting, optimistic thought, you are more likely to have a positive experience in life. On the other hand, if you focus on negative thoughts and ideas, bad things will be attracted to you and you will suffer from the pain that comes along with them. Your subconscious mind can actually control the way that things happen to you, so it is important to think positively if you hope to have a happy and healthy life.

Negative emotions such as worry, fear, and stress can have a negative bearing on your physical and mental health. When you allow these things to take over your mind, you are creating a negative energy that attracts more negative situations. You might find yourself in dangerous situations when you think negatively, or you may be more susceptible to injury and disease when you don’t allow positive thoughts to permeate your being.

The Law of Attraction also states that you will experience more financial success if you focus on positive thoughts. If you tell yourself that you will be highly successful, you are more likely to carry out the tasks and receive higher paying jobs in the future.

You can ensure that your successes are more frequent and lucrative when you focus on being financially successful. Thinking negative thoughts may bring concepts that ultimately end with you losing money, so it’s important to remain positive and look towards financial success rather than dwell on failures.

The Law of Attraction is important when it comes to relationships as well. When you visualize another person based on their positive attributes, you are more likely to get along with them and benefit from a strong relationship.

If you remain positive around other people, they will think positively of you and will be more likely to become your friend. This can also work with romantic relationships.

Visualizing a positive atmosphere and creating an optimistic view of the person that you are pursuing can play a strong role in harboring a successful romantic relationship.

As you remain positive, you will gain more confidence and be better able to attract the people that you are looking to attract. Just as good situations will find you if you are positive, so will great partners in the future.