How to Build Your Self Esteem With Hypnotherapy

Break the negative trance of low self esteem with a gentle, permissive Hypnotherapy session.

The effects of low self esteem are all around us.

Broken or dysfunctional relationships, academic underachievement, feelings of loneliness and isolation, and behaviour that damages health and life prospects all have roots in low self esteem.

Why high self esteem isn't the answer

It might seem that high self esteem would be a great thing, but high self esteem can bring its own problems.

A little bit of doubt or caution before you go feet first into something forces you to consider more carefully how your actions might affect, for good or bad, the outcome.

So, how much self esteem is right for you?

The effects of low self esteem

Your opinion of yourself, what you think of your own 'worth', really does make a difference to your life. If you mistakenly value yourself too low, you may:

• blame yourself for things that aren't your fault

• underestimate your own abilities

• expect things to go wrong for you

Low self esteem may stop you from socialising and keeping friendships alive, cutting yourself off from the world. Low self esteem may cause you to drink excessively or look for other 'highs' to give your life some excitement.

Or maybe it simply stops you from doing what you want to do, as you've run out of energy or belief that you're worth it and it's worth pursuing.

Why does looking after your self esteem matter?

When you have a more balanced view of yourself, you can;

• be much fairer to yourself

• be more objective about your strong points

• have more confidence in your abilities

• feel calmer when you think about yourself and your future

• think more positively about life generally

So, rather than going flat out for high self esteem, the best way forward is to work on building it to a healthy level that will help you get more out of life and feel more comfortable with yourself. Maybe your self esteem right now hovers around a low 1 or 2 out of 10, but you'd settle for feeling more like a 7 or 8 out of 10.

With higher self esteem, you will start to socialise more and believe you've got something to say that's worth hearing. You will stop abusing your body and look after you physical health better. You will say yes more at work, or school and start to progress towards what you want out of life.

How Hypnotherapy can improve self esteem

The trouble with low self esteem is that it generally stems from emotions that are created at an unconscious level. Which is why conscious efforts to think better of yourself rarely work.

And this is where Hypnosis comes in. Hypnosis is the art of communicating with the unconscious mind, and so we can use it to update the old patterns that are driving low self esteem. It will:

• relax you incredibly deeply

• remind you of your good qualities (that sometimes may be difficult to appreciate)

• improve your self confidence

• give you the inner strength to come through difficult times

• help you feel better about yourself

• improve your social and working relationships

Please contact Me if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 

Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

Stop Putting People on a Pedestal

Let hypnosis help you connect more naturally with others and put yourself on the same level as others

Do you have a tendency to idealise people?

Do you often feel inferior to people who have qualities you admire?

We all idealise people from time to time. As an obvious example, you can probably think of a teenage crush who, in your lovestruck eyes, could do no wrong. (Of course, later in life you likely came to realise just how distorted your view of that person really was!)

There's nothing wrong with putting people on a pedestal from time to time. It's good to recognize qualities we respect and admire in others, as it can help us shape our own personal beliefs and values, and inspire us to better ourselves. The problem arises when we magnify those qualities to an unrealistic degree.

When we see others as superior, we necessarily see ourselves as inferior, which creates an unfair and harmful self-image. Not only that, it can also be uncomfortable for the person on the pedestal, who may worry that they can't live up to the standard you've set for them. Most importantly, it creates a sense of distance that quashes any chance of real human connection.

We are all just human beings

When we put someone on a pedestal, we fail to recognise that their strengths are offset by plenty of weaknesses, too. To genuinely connect with others, it is critical to realise this. We can learn to see and accept all of a person - the good and the bad, the unique and the ordinary. We can nurture the understanding that we are all just human beings, each of us with the same intrinsic value and worth.

That's what this session is going to help you to do: to see people as they really are. To break free of the habit of magnifying people's strengths, while ignoring their weaknesses. You can still look up to people you admire, and you can even put people on a pedestal now and then. But you'll recognize this for the distorted view that it is, knowing that in reality they are no better than you or anyone else.

How hypnosis can help

I offer in person tailored sessions to help or why not try this download .. Stop Putting People on a Pedestal is an audio hypnosis session that will help you stop idealizing people.

As you relax and listen repeatedly to your session, you'll notice that you:

• Recognize that all humans have the same inherent value

• Naturally treat others simply as fellow human beings on the same level as you

• Relate to others in a more comfortable, relaxed way

• Feel more confident and self-assured in general.

I offer in person sessions to help you Overcome any fears or doubts you may have or you can download Stop Putting People on a Pedestal now and learn to set aside doubt when it doesn't serve you.

Please contact my staff or myself if you have any questions or to book an in person session

Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

To Arrange YOUR SESSION Please contact us on 00356 99355901.

You can book a session by calling or whatsapp on 99355901 or Download Stop Putting People on a Pedestal now and start enjoying natural, genuine connection with others. You can listen on your computer or device or via our free app which you can access when you have completed your purchase.

Very best wishes

Kimberley

Overcome Fear You've Done Something Wrong

Learn to distance yourself from the doubt and focus on more productive things

Do you spend an inordinate amount of time wondering whether you've made some kind of terrible mistake?

Are you constantly plagued by doubt?

Maybe you're pouring over something you said to a friend, wondering if they took offence. Perhaps you're concerned that client took their business elsewhere because of something you did. Or maybe you can't stop thinking about that red light you may or may not have accidentally run. Regardless of what it is you're obsessing over, fear you've done something wrong is never fun.

Thinking back over our actions and checking for errors is a natural and, in moderation, useful part of being human. But, like most things in life, when we do this to excess it can start to cause problems. Recurrent, intrusive doubts can cause guilt and anxiety, and leave us constantly seeking reassurance.

So what can you do to help divert your mind away from these frustrating and fruitless thoughts?

A strategy for driving out doubt

First, you need to externalize your doubt. This doesn't mean suppressing it, but rather gaining some distance from it so that it is separate from who you fundamentally are. Recognize it for the imaginary or insignificant concern that it is. When you do, you will find that it immediately loses some of its power over you.

Next, you need to soothe and calm the fear that has been stirred up by that doubt. Now that you have gained some distance from it, you can approach this just as you would approach soothing and calming a child or a friend. Sit with your fear, and gently, purposefully relax with it. Validate it, but don't succumb to it.

Finally, when those emotions have settled, you can calmly, deliberately redirect your attention to something more productive or enjoyable. The more often you do this, the more you will reinforce these neural pathways so that you naturally focus on purposeful action rather than dwelling on your doubts.

How hypnosis can help

Overcome Fear You've Done Something Wrong is an audio hypnosis session that will guide you to distance yourself from your obsessive doubts and soothe the associated anxiety.

As you relax and listen repeatedly to your session, you'll notice that you:

• See your doubts objectively as imaginary and insignificant

• Can put aside obsessive thoughts to focus on more useful, productive things

• Are more trusting in yourself and your judgment

• Feel calmer, more clear-headed, and more confident in general.

I offer in person sessions to help you Overcome any fears or doubts you may have or you can download Overcome Fear You've Done Something Wrong now and learn to set aside doubt when it doesn't serve you.

You can listen on your computer or device or via our free app which you can access when you have completed your purchase.

Please contact my staff or myself if you have any questions or to book an n person session

Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

To Arrange YOUR SESSION Please contact us on 00356 99355901.

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Build Your Self-Esteem With NLP & Self-Hypnosis

A social phobia is a fear of interacting with others on a social level. Examples would be talking in front of other people, waiting in a queue at the checkout imagining others are looking at you, or even fear of talking on the phone.

Self-confidence is a feeling that allows people to have positive, yet realistic views of themselves and their circumstances. Self-confident people have confidence in their own abilities, have a general sense of control over their lives, and believe that, within reason, they will be able to do what they want and need to do.

Confidence is a perspective that is accomplished through experiences. When a person experiences success, that person will tend to expect to be successful. And that very expectation will cause a feeling of self-confidence.

For example: A man wants to be a professional boxer, so he gets a manager and takes lessons. His manager will not put him into a bout until he has developed enough proficient fighting skills. And even then, the manager will only put him up against a competitor that he knows his fighter can overpower. When his fighter beats the opponent, he is successful, and starts to gain confidence in his capability.

With each match, the manager puts his prizefighter up against a contender who is a slightly better challenger then the last, but not good enough to beat his man. By the end of the third fight, the young contestant begins to expect to win his fourth, and so his confidence continues to bloom. This series of events continues to repeat itself. And as long as the fighter contestant is victorious, his expectations of success, and his feelings of self-confidence will continue to escalate.

As another example: A young lady who is scared to death of being in high places wants to learn to dive into a swimming pool from a very high diving board. So she finds a diving coach who asks her to take a jump into the pool from the first rung of the ladder going up to the high diving board. The first step of the ladder is not awfully high, so the young lady feels confident, and she dives from that rung, and lands in the water unharmed.

Next, the athletic coach has her take a jump from the second rung of the ladder, and so forth. I assume that you see what's going on here. With each new step she takes as she climbs higher up the ladder, since the girl was able to jump without fear or harm, and the next higher step is only slightly higher then the last, the fear factor is negligible, and the girl expects to be successful. When she dives in and is unhurt, the girl's self-confidence increases, and her expectation of success on the next step up the ladder increases.

If a person who has a long history of success and feelings of confidence does fail, they still tend to expect success the next time out. Conversely, when a person who isn’t as strong in the self-confidence department fails, they tend to lose confidence, and expect failure, which can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Having true self-confidence doesn't mean that individuals will be able to do everything. People, who have true self-confidence, usually have expectations that are practical. Even when some of their expectations are not met, they continue to be confident and to accept themselves.

People, who are not self-confident, tend to depend excessively on the approval of others in order to feel self-confidence. They usually don't take risks because of the fear of failure. They make light of themselves and tend to discount compliments that they receive.

Conversely, confident people are willing to risk the disapproval of others because they generally have confidence in their own prowess. They acknowledge themselves; and they don't feel they have to conform in order to be admired.

Just because one feels self-confidence in one or more parts of their life, doesn't mean that they will feel overconfident in every single part of their life. For example, a person might feel optimistic about their athletic prowess, but not feel confident as far as members of the opposite sex are involved, such as in a dating situation, or social relationships.

HOW IS Self-confidence Initially developed?

Many powerful and effective truths have an impact on the development of self-confidence.

Parents' attitudes are critical to the way children think about themselves, especially in their early years. When parents provide admiration, children receive a solid foundation for self-esteem. If one or both parents are excessively demanding or critical, or if they are overprotective and discourage moves toward independence, children may be fated to believe they are incapable, inadequate, or inferior.

However, if parents encourage a child's moves toward self-reliance, and they are not overly critical when the child makes mistakes, the child will learn to accept herself, and will be on the way to developing self-confidence.

A lack of confidence is not necessarily related to a lack of ability. A lack of self-confidence is often the result of centering much too strongly on the expectancy of other people in particular friends and parents. The control of peers can be more powerful than that of parents in shaping the feelings about one's self.

Assumptions That Continue to Affect Self-confidence

In response to external influences, people create beliefs. Some of these are helpful and some are not so helpful. Several assumptions that can interfere with self-confidence and positive ways of thinking are:

ASSUMPTION: I must always be successful at every challenge that I undertake. This assumption is a totally unrealistic assumption. In life each person has his strengths and his weaknesses. While it is important to learn to do the best that one can, it is more important to learn to accept yourself as being human, and deficient. Let yourself feel good about what you are good at, and accept the fact that you don't know everything and you don't need to.

ASSUMPTION: I must be perfect, and loved by everyone, and satisfy everyone. Again, this assumption is a totally unrealistic assumption. All human beings are less than perfect. It's well advised to develop personal standards and values that are not very dependent on the approval of other people.

ASSUMPTION: Everything that happened to me in the past remains in control of my feelings and behaviors in the present.

ALTERNATIVE: While it is true that your confidence was especially vulnerable to external influences when you were a child as you gain maturity appreciation and point of view on what those influences have been. In doing so, you can choose which influences you will continue to allow to have an effect on your life. You don't have to be helpless based on what happened in the past

HERE ARE SOME STRATEGIES FOR DEVELOPING CONFIDENCE

Emphasize Your Strengths. Grant yourself credit for everything that you can do. And bestow upon yourself credit for every new experience you are willing to try.

Take risks. Adopt the attitude of: I never fail, because there are NO failures. However, sometimes I find out what doesn't work and once I've learned what doesn't work in a given situation, I can test something else.

Use Self-Talk: Use self-talk as a tool to counter harmful assumptions. Then, tell yourself to stop. Substitute more reasonable assumptions. For example, when you catch yourself expecting yourself to be perfect, remind yourself that it is impossible to do everything perfectly, and that it's only possible to do things to the best of your ability. This allows you to accept yourself as you are working towards improvement.

Make mental movies: Picture yourself in scenes that you currently have low levels of self-confidence in. But see yourself behaving in the way that a person who has tremendous confidence would.

There are powerful hypnosis and NLP processes that you can use to instill a sizable amount of self-confidence from within your subconscious mind. There are even NLP techniques that will let you take confidence that you do have in areas of your life, and then transplant that confidence to areas of your life that require more self-confidence!

Self-Evaluate: Learn to judge yourself independently. Refrain from the habitual sense of confusion that comes from relying on the opinions of others.

Would you like some help FROM a Qualified Hypnotherapy & NLP practitioner & Trainer?

Please contact my staff or myself by phone or whatsapp on 00356 99355901 if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 

Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact us on 00356 99355901.

Best wishes

Kimberley :)

PS: If you would like to read further about treatment for self esteem or hypnosis and NLP I recommend these books

Overcome Fear and Anxiety

We Can Stop Worry And Apprehension Wrecking Your Life

Do you often feel fearful and anxious even when you know there's nothing to worry about?

Are your thoughts and emotions controlling you, rather than the other way round?

Feeling Worried And Frightened Is Extremely Unpleasant

Your heart pounds. Your chest feels too tight. Your guts seem to be tied in knots. You break out in a sweat. You desperately want to run away - but where to? You might feel sick. You can't think straight. You're sure something awful is going to happen.

What Is Fear For?

This wouldn't be so bad if you really were about to be run over by a bus or eaten by a rampaging lion. Because then you wouldn't be thinking at all. You'd be jumping aside, or swarming up a tree as fast as you could go. And you'd be so happy to come out alive that you'd hardly notice the sweat, or the knots. This, after all, is what fear is for. It's to galvanize you into instant, immediate, instinctive, life saving action.

If you are really in danger, fear and anxiety are completely appropriate - and useful! - responses.

Why You Can Feel Afraid When You're Perfectly Safe

But the chances are that you are having these feelings and thoughts somewhere perfectly safe and secure. You are not about to die. You are not about to be attacked. You are likely surrounded by ordinary folk going about their ordinary lives, just like you. Sure, some of them may be awkward characters, or may even actively dislike you, but dealing with difficult people is an ordinary part of ordinary life.

So how come you always feel so excessively worried and fearful about stuff?

When Fear Becomes A Habit, Growing Out Of Control

Well, you may be surprised to learn this, but, like all human responses, feeling afraid and uneasy can become a habit. There may have been times in the past when you've had genuine reasons to feel frightened about what might happen to you, but somehow this feeling has become generalized to lots of situations where it doesn't belong.

And because fear feeds on itself, growing ever bigger by focusing on how bad things could get, it can end up taking over your life, imprisoning you in an iron cage of worry.

Hypnosis Can Break The Fear Habit For Good

Personalized 1 on 1 Overcome Fear & Anxiety In Person Course

A MIXTURE OF PERSONALIZED COUNSELLING, HYPNOTHERAPY, & NLP SESSIONS TO Help You Overcome Your Fear Or Anxiety

Please contact my staff or myself if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 

Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact us on 00356 99355901 or book an appointment here

Why Hypnosis Is Better For Stress Than Meditating

Stress Is The Life Killer

Stress is the greatest problem for people in the modern world, and it's much worse than just health problems such as heart attacks that are brought on by too much stress for way too long.

Stress impacts EVERYTHING.

Stress kills our libido, our enjoyment of life; stress causes disturbed emotions

Stress Is The Life Killer

Stress is the greatest problem for people in the modern world, and it's much worse than just health problems such as heart attacks that are brought on by too much stress for way too long.

Stress impacts EVERYTHING.

Stress kills our libido, our enjoyment of life; stress causes disturbed emotions of anger, rage, sadness and depression; stress makes us clumsy; stress causes us to make mistakes and worst of all, stress makes us think stupid thoughts (we become "stress stupid") and it cuts off the internal flow to our creative and innate talents and abilities.

It is clear that we ALL need to de-stress, whether we are teenagers who suffer from acne and migraines as a result of stress, men and women in "anger management",

authors who suffer from writer's block, business people who burst a blood vessel, or parents at home who aren't enjoying their kids but end up screaming at them instead.

So how do we de-stress, and urgently, and FAST?

***** Why Stress & Meditation Are At Odds

Many hold that meditating and meditation is the answer to stress.

Meditating and meditation is the act of entering into altered states of consciousness, to widen our conscious awareness and to re-connect with the super consciousness of our energy mind (subconscious mind, subconsciousness).

This does not happen when we are stressed - a person under stress is like a TV that isn't tuning properly. Everything is disturbed, mad, doesn't fit together, there is no clarity.

Trying to meditate when you are stressed is like trying to be romantic with a pick axe embedded in your forehead - try as you might, it's not going to work very well if ever at all.

So we have the classic Catch 22 and another big stressor to add to all of that stress - a stressed person is TOLD to relax and go away and meditate, but they can't meditate because they're way too stressed!

Why Hypnosis Is The Best For Stress

Long before a person who is under a lot of stress can even BEGIN to enjoy harp music to relax them even further, they need to be made to slow down into other states of being, and for that you need HELP.

"A good talking to" by a sympathetic other is the most NATURAL way of getting rid of stress invented by human kind, and it even exceeds physical touch approaches in high stress situations; it precedes them too. We "talk" a potential suicide victim DOWN from the top of a building, not massage them off; we "talk" an angry man with a gun down into lowering it, we don't pat him on the back.

That is exactly where hypnosis comes in to help with stress.

Hypnosis is DESIGNED to assist people to ENTER INTO AN ALTERED STATE of meditation - that is the first purpose of hypnosis, and its speciality.

Often people get confused by the "instructions" or the content of hypnosis - the post hypnotic suggestions for change that take all the attention, but it is the fact that hypnosis brings people into the restful meditative state where they even become RECEPTIVE to suggestions, ideas, visions and new thoughts is where the power of hypnosis to heal the mind actually lies.

From Hypnosis To Meditation - Breaking The Stress Loop

"Going into trance" is something that we learn and we are taught when a hypnotist talks to us, and talks us down from the stress of the thoughts that fly here, there and everywhere, into a relaxed state of clarity, and peace, where your body is at ease and mind healing can finally begin.

THE MORE HYPNOSIS YOU DO, THE BETTER YOU GET AT RELAXING.

It is a learned skill that gets ever better with practice.

So my recommendation to combat stress, and to learn how to relax and EVENTUALLY to be able to meditate successfully, which then leads to being able to control one's own stress levels in the real world and to be able to relax and de-stress even in the middle of a stressful situation, is to DO HYPNOSIS - and LOTS OF IT.

Rather than to hopelessly try and "find inner peace" so necessary for mind healing without guidance, do hypnosis inductions. This is as easy as sitting down in a chair, putting on the headphones and letting the hypnotist do their job.

Hypnosis CDs, mp3s and tapes are readily and freely available; there are MANY free downloads and trial downloads available.

Try many, and if you find a hypnotist that YOU GET ON WITH, someone you find relaxing to listen to and who can make you feel safe, relaxed and you can feel your stress begin to drain away as they speak with you, you have struck "Anti-Stress Gold".

Now you have a tool to help you break out of the stress loop.

Use this hypnotist to de-stress you regularly and as often as you possibly can.

You will find after a few repetitions that you LEARN TO LEARN TO RELAX and HOW YOU DO THAT.

Now, you are ready to start meditating on your own.

Anti-Stress Meditation In The Moment

When you are out and about in your daily environment and you notice your stress levels rising, remember your hypnotist and what they said, just for a moment. Find out if you can feel your stress beginning to flow away. Even if your stress abates just a little bit, you can know that you are now on your way - you have started to learn to control your states of being, your states of mind.

This is the beginning of a new stress free life.

Life will ALWAYS be stressful.

We need to learn to be able to notice when we're stressed, and to step

back from that into the clarity of altered states.

That is what hypnosis teaches you, teaches you easily, and just for the listening, no willpower required at all.

When you have learned the basics of relaxation, THEN and only THEN are you ready to begin to meditate on your own, or to use meditation devices that require these basic skills of knowing how to shift state in the first place.

Hypnosis, Stress & Meditation - In Conclusion

Using hypnosis for stress relief doesn't mean that you should only look at hypnosis programs designed for stress alone. Remember that what you want to learn is the skill of altering your states of being, so that you can also then meditate and get all the health benefits from that; but more importantly even still, so that you can de-stress yourself in REAL LIFE.

You can choose ANY good hypnotist, and ANY good hypnosis program that excites you, in a double benefit, because it is not the CONTENT, but the hypnosis skills themselves you need to learn to put an end to being in stress states all the time.

You can choose intelligence enhancing hypnosis programs; mind healing programs; performance programs, health programs - the CONTENT is irrelevant and just the icing on the cake.

Hypnosis is a WONDERFUL and incredibly USEFUL tool for dealing with the human mind, for healing the mind, and for getting our thoughts and

conscious mind under control.

Explore. Find a GOOD hypnotist who can teach you the life saving skill of going into trance, and you get control not just of your stress, but of your entire WORLD.

Please contact my staff or myself if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 

Face To Face in person sessions are by appointment only.

Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta.

Or online by skype or Zoom

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact us on 00356 99355901

How to stop self-sabotaging yourself

How To STOP Self Sabotage

Tips To Help You Stop Self Sabotage …

Did you eat (almost) the whole chocolate cake when your goal was to lose fifteen pounds?

On your last visit to the mall, did you buy three pairs of shoes and a jacket that you didn’t have the need for?

You know you are good at your work and expecting a promotion soon. But as the time for the advancement comes near, did you unintentionally start missing deadlines and showed up late for work?

We can relate to these and many other examples in our daily life that we act out as contrary to our self-interest. This is called self-sabotage and whether we do it consciously or subconsciously – it can be destructing and a significant obstacle in our way of achieving goals.

What causes self-sabotage?

There may be many reasons to indulge in self-sabotage. Usually our poor self-esteem prevents us from doing the things that are essential for our prosperity. For example, someone was verbally abused as a child. They were called ‘stupid’ and never recognized for the intelligence they possessed. Growing up the individual will believe their lack of intelligence and fail to treat themselves as a person capable of doing tasks of intellectual nature.

We humans also fear getting out of our comfort zone. We assure ourselves that we are fine the way we are.  Our internal voice keeps whispering ‘soothing’ comments in our ears that make us believe that one more piece of cake will not hurt or the extra TV time is well deserved after a tiring day at work.

However, excessive self-sabotage can create several negative effects in our life including impact our health, depression, financial issues, social anxiety, loss of job, and even personal conflictions.

How to overcome self-sabotage

To stop the act of self-sabotage, we must recognize when we are getting in our own way. Most of the time we are aware of the situation. For example

+, we procrastinate important tasks when we know they are immediately required. Or sometimes we sabotage our best interest out of impulse such as make purchases when they are not required or binge watch episodes of Friends when we have exams the next day.

Regardless of the reason, self-sabotage should be stopped and here are some tips to help you:

1.       Accept responsibility

Always remember that you are liable for the outcome from your choices and actions. Stop playing the victim card through your emotional or mental health and get in control of your life.

2.       Identify the self-destructing patterns

What do you do to stop yourself from achieving the important tasks? Do you press the snooze button when the alarm rings or do you obsess over unimportant things when you should be concentrating on the project in hand?

Once you identify the behaviors, try to stop your instincts and avoid the self-destructing patterns.

3.       Believe in positivity

Negative thoughts usually make way for self-sabotaging behavior. Don’t allow your inner saboteur to get the best of you and believe in the positive mantra. Hypnosis is also helpful in this matter where the positive thoughts are penetrated deep into your subconscious mind – enabling you to pursue your goals more effectively and successfully.

4.       Stay away from those who doubt your worth

Instead of being with people who put you down, enlist a group of friends/family that encourage you to do more.

Remember your self-worth

Last but not the least – always remember your self-worth. The higher you will find your self-worth to be, the more confident you will have with your work and surroundings – enabling you to achieve more than you imagined.

How Hypnosis can help

How to Stop Self Sabotage

Using hypnosis to update your unconscious mind to stop undermining your own best interests

Are you tired of feeling like things you try never quite work out?

Do you feel like you sometimes get in your own way when it comes to life fulfillment?

You know where you want to get to in life, at least where you think you want to go. But there's that other part of you that brings doubt and ultimately causes you to back out of following your goals because of fear.

This can happen in all areas of life, including:

• Fitness

• Relationships

• Work

• Dieting.

And fear is a key factor in these situations. Because self sabotage happens when we are afraid of a part of our goal. This causes unconscious conflict, which manifests itself as actions and feelings that work against that goal.

By the end, we aren't where we want to be, but at least we were right in our low estimations of ourselves.

It's a vicious cycle.

The dangers of self preservation

But of course, the vindication we feel when we fail to attain a goal, but expected it, is detrimental to our healthy progression in life.

And the joy of true success in life far outweighs that of self preservation.

The trick is to make the achievement of the goal feel more compelling than the fear of not succeeding. And this is where hypnosis comes in.

How hypnosis can help stop self sabotage

Self sabotage, as we've seen, is an unconscious attempt at self protection. It is usually caused by old unconscious patterns that no longer work for us, and need to be updated.

Hypnosis is the art of communicating with the unconscious mind, and in this case we thank it for its effort to protect you and then gently inform it that times have changed and it can move on.

The Stop Self Sabotage hypnosis session will help you move along your own path to fulfillment.

As you relax and listen repeatedly to your session, you'll notice that you:

• Stop feeling anxious about achieving goals.

• Stop worrying so much about what might go wrong

• Can better plan how to achieve your goals

• Are better able to move forward with these plans

• Begin to progress further in life.

  You can download a hypnosis recording here to get started on your journey to change or if you’d like to book an in person session in Xemxija , Malta please either email: kim@Hypnotherapy-Malta.com or call 99355901

When should I start hypnobirthing?

When should I start hypnobirthing? The ideal time to start classes is between 25 weeks and 29 weeks of pregnancy, If you have anxiety or stress related to your pregnancy or birth then it is probably a good idea to attend a session regarding this right at the start of your pregnacy so that you can relax and enjoy being pregnant and anyone may well benefit from classes right up to the end of their pregnancy.

Please see here for ways we can help you enjoy your pregnancy and have a peaceful, natural, relaxing birth or contact me for further details 99355901 - info@hypnotherapy-malta.com

Social Anxiety Tips - 3 Ways To Lower Your Fear

Learning some quick tips and techniques can be the best way to start overcoming your social anxiety. The three main areas to focus on are your thoughts, emotions and behaviors. Attacking your social anxiety from these three areas at the same time will have a compounding effect on the results you get. Focus on the ones you have the most difficulty with now, and then move on to the others.

Your thoughts and how you manage them can have a substantial impact. If you have time, look into cognitive behavioral therapy for a complete set of tools on managing your thoughts. If you just want to try some quick techniques out right now, then keep reading this article. One way to lower your anxious thoughts is to accept them. It sound like a contradiction, but it isn't. Once you fully accept yourself, even down to your anxious thoughts, which are a "flaw," then you'll feel a lot less inferior to others. If you have thoughts or feelings of inadequacy or inferiority often, then it usually just comes down to accepting yourself and then working towards a better future at the same time.

Also try thinking a lot less. Most socially anxious people think way too much, which makes them stuck inside their head. If you can slow down your anxious thoughts by switching your focus to the people around you, then you should be able to think a lot less, which will make you less anxious.

If you have social anxiety, then it's normal to feel lonely, sad and depressed. Unfortunately, these are the exact types of emotions that will drive off potential friendships or relationships. People don't like to be around people who are sad and depressed all the time. Instead, you want to be fun and happy a good deal of the time. How do you do this? Try smiling. The simple act of smiling actually releases chemicals in your brain that start to make you feel more happy automatically If you don't believe me, then try it for yourself. How much different do you feel when you are slouched over and looking bored versus sitting up straight with a huge smile on your face?

The last tip I'll show you is the one which may make the most lasting changes to your level of social anxiety. Here it is: face your fears directly. It may sound like impractical advice if you are very socially anxious. In that case, you need to start with small fears and build your way up. Maybe try to make and hold eye contact outside with three people outside today and then move on to bigger fears.

If you want to learn more ways of coping with social anxiety, then click to check out my blog on curing social anxiety.

Or call me for an initial consultation on 99355901

Why Hypnosis Can Cure Social Anxiety

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