Overcome Obstacles

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What to Do When Obstacles Seem Like Too Much

Coming out of 2021, you probably know what it's like to feel overwhelmed by the sheer size or amount of obstacles on your plate. Although obstacles are necessary to help you grow, they certainly can be challenging, leading you to feel inadequate, distraught, and overwhelmed.

Luckily, there are some things you can do to help manage the obstacles in front of you. In this tutorial, I'm going to tell you three things to do when obstacles seem like too much. Let's get started.

1.     Take a deep breath.

Whenever you begin to feel overwhelmed by obstacles, your body will likely show some physical signs. For example, your chest may become tight, breathing become more rapid, and body start to shake. Although these physical signs are not in and of themselves dangerous, they can pose health risks on down the line, and they aren't comfortable at the moment.

Instead of dwelling on the obstacles you feel overwhelmed by, simply take a deep breath. Take a couple deep breaths if you need to. Simply breathe in and out to relax your body and give it some much needed oxygen.

Breathing deeply will lessen the feelings of anxiety that come with feeling overwhelmed by your obstacles. Breathing deeply is also just good for your overall well being. Aim to make your exhale longer than inhale for optimal results.

2.     Focus on what you can control.

Whenever people feel overwhelmed by their obstacles, it is likely because they feel out of control with their life. As humans, we want to control everything. Obstacles remind us that we simply are not as in control of our lives as we would like to be.

If this is why you feel overwhelmed by your obstacles, focus on something you can control instead. This may include your water intake, the food you put in your body, how you present yourself, reading a book, or anything else you have control over.

Focusing on what you can control will take away the immediate signs of anxiety associated with obstacles. It may also boost your confidence, sense of self love, and willingness to invest in your own life.

3.     Look at the positives.

Finally, the last way to help manage feelings of stress from your obstacles is to look at the positives. No matter how bleak the obstacle or situation may seem, there is always a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel. Focus on the positives to relax your mind.

One positive of any obstacle is that it challenges you to become a better person. If you can't think of any other positive of your situation, fall back on this one: the obstacle is turning you into a stronger and more capable person.

Chances are, however, there are other benefits as well. For example, if you got laid off at work, you can think that you now have more time to focus on your personal interests and hobbies. Though this won't take away the sting of getting laid off, it will make the sting slightly more tolerable.

Whenever you look at the positives, you aren't just rejecting the bad. Instead, you have a much more realistic and adult view of the situation, which involves both positives and negatives.

Final Thoughts

Next time you feel overwhelmed by your obstacles, take a deep breath, focus on what you can control, or look at the positives. Better yet, try a combination of all three techniques to help you calm yourself down and approach the obstacle more rationally once again.

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Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
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Mindset Transformation

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Have a Vision, Not a Goal!

If you want to accomplish as much as you possibly can, the most important thing to get right is the vision or goal you have to begin with. This is essentially the same as setting your trajectory and without a trajectory, you don’t stand much chance of getting to your destination. Unfortunately, many people don’t know how to correctly write goals and this can end up preventing them from standing any chance of success in their chosen field.

And actually, if you’re setting off to write a goal then you’re starting out with the wrong intent to begin with. Because ‘goals’ aren’t really as useful as visions – which is what we’re going to explore here.

The Difference Between a Goal and a Vision

So what’s the difference between a goal and a vision? Essentially, a goal is something that you write down and that is very concrete and simple. A goal may for example be to ‘lose 10lbs in two months’. That’s a goal but it’s also not as effective as a vision designed to the same end.

This same ambition posed as a vision rather than a goal would instead be more the idea of being in shape. You might visualise yourself looking ripped and feeling healthy. You might imagine yourself going for jogs on the beach with your top off in summer and feeling great about yourself. That’s your vision.

A vision can also be an image of yourself standing in an office block and looking out over the world, knowing that you’re in a position of great importance and power.

This is a much more abstract concept that nevertheless helps you to get a picture of what you want and what the emotion behind that goal is.

Why Visions Work Better Than Goals

So why are visions more successful than goals?

For one, goals are not nearly flexible enough. If you have a goal, then this gives you one thing you’re trying accomplish and only one idea of how to get there. If it doesn’t go to plan then you have the freedom to change the steps you’re going to take to get there, or to bend them to fit your current lifestyle, plans and free time.

Another reason visions work better is because they have more emotional content. When you visualise something, the same regions fire in your brain as though it was actually happening. This in turn means that you can actually trigger the emotion as though it were happening. And it’s this emotion we can use to motivate ourselves to go through with plans!

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Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
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To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Personal Transformation Mastery

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How Increased Confidence Can Help You Get What You Want

This might sound like the cheesy-kind of advice your parents might have given you, but it really is true that confidence can get you pretty much whatever you want. That and being yourself.

If you want to get a date, succeed in your career or otherwise take any aspect of your life to the next level, then boosting your confidence is one of the best ways to accomplish that. Here’s why…

What Confidence Really Means

If you have ever met an alpha male, or a woman who just seems to have everything under control, then you might have noticed that they are usually very confident. The truth is that the whole reason they appear so successful is that confidence. That’s because confidence sends a powerful signal – it says ‘I consider myself to be a catch’.

Speaking in evolutionary terms, confidence suggests that you are a good potential mate, or a superior competitor. Even if someone is short, poorly dressed and unappealing – if they are supremely confidence then it will seem as though they know something you don’t. The assumption is that they must have a reason to be that confident.

And thus we instantly assume that this person is somehow our superior: that we should try to impress them, or try to be more like them. That’s why we gravitate toward confident people, want to date them and want to be liked by them.

A lot of people don’t realise the importance of confidence and they think it is enough to be nice. They assume that by acting nice, they will get people to like them and they can that way overcome their looks, their stature, or their status.

But if you don’t have any self-confidence and you act very nice, then this can actually backfire: it starts to seem as though you want something and that you are being a creep in order to get it.

Conversely, if you act a little less needy, if you can show yourself to be highly capable and impressive and then you chat to someone in a friendly and open manner… then people will be won over by your charm and your appeal. This niceness seems much more genuine because you appear like you don’t need help from everyone.

So guys: stop trying to win the girl by being nice.

Employees, stop trying to get the job by being self-deprecating.

Act like you know your worth and then layer niceness on top of that. That is the winning combination!

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Meditate For Your Health

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Prioritize Your Health

Stress can easily overtake your life and leave you feeling like you have no control over your life.

When you feel like you’re drowning in stress, the only way that you can combat this is by prioritising your health.

Though prioritising your health won’t magically make the source of your stress disappear, it will help you to revaluate your actions and decide what stress is worth your time and what stress isn’t. If you don’t prioritise your health, though, you may never take control of your stress and be one of the many people who live their lives trapped by responsibilities.

Meditate For Your Health

One of the best ways to prioritise your health is by meditating daily.

Meditation has several positive benefits on your physical and mental health, one of which being stress-relief.

In fact, meditation is one of the most effective ways to relieve and manage stress.

Unfortunately, many people believe they’re too busy to meditate, causing them to forgo meditation, its numerous benefits, and stress-relieving abilities. So, how can you meditate when you’re strapped for time?

Prioritising your meditation is key to finding a way to fit meditation into your busy schedule. Though this may sound impossible for a hardworking, busy adult, it really is not. In fact, the idea that meditation requires a lot of time is a false myth.

In contrast, meditation can take as little as 5 minutes a day. More so, you can meditate while doing everyday tasks like walking to work, waiting in line, or doing the dishes. Incorporating meditation into your life in this way will allow you to experience both the benefits of meditation without taking up too much of your valuable time.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
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To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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How Distractions Prevent You from Success

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You probably get distracted by something a thousand times a day.

Most people get distracted every few minutes and have to return to the task that they were working on. People with ADHD can get distracted for an hour or more without even realizing that they were off task.

But these kinds of distractions are not the ones that are keeping you from success. There are other distractions in your life and you are probably going to have to get rid of them to achieve your goals. In this article, we are going to discuss four distractions that are preventing you from achieving the success you want.

Online Socializing

The first distraction that we will be discussing is online socializing. If you are like most people, you waste an incredible amount of time on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and various other social networks that do nothing for you except tell you what your friends had for lunch.

Social media can be important to your success. If you are using social platforms to build a group of people that could buy something from you later, then it is fair to spend some time on social media. Otherwise, limit yourself.

Friends and Family

Your friends and family may be distracting you from success. It is perfectly fine to spend time with friends and family, but if you are constantly committed to helping them out, going places with them or putting off your work for other people, then you need to pull back and realize that your success is just as important as your relationships.

Power Lunches

In corporate American, power lunches are definitely one of the ways that work relationships are built and deals are brokered. But if your power lunches and other functions are not contributing to your personal success, then you need to stop worrying about them and focus on what is really important.

The Siren Song of Possessions

Finally, you want to avoid the siren song of things. This is the urge to spend money on the things that you think you need in order to be successful. Maybe you think that if you had a faster computer you could get more done. In most cases, that simply isn’t true. You don’t need to spend money on things to become successful and you may need to make some short-term sacrifices in order to achieve your goals.

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Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
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Stop Worrying What Other People Think Of You

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Can Comparing Yourself To Others Be Good For You?

The answer to this is a resounding “Yes” if you do this in the right way. What most people tend to do is compare themselves to others as some form of validation for themselves or because of envy or some other negative emotion.

The secret to comparing yourself to others for your benefit is to do it on the premise that you want to improve yourself. You want to achieve a specific goal and another person has already achieved this goal so you can learn from them and then use similar strategies in your own life.

You must have the right Intent

Having the right intent for comparing yourself to another person is critical. What we do not recommend you do is compare yourself to someone else that you know is not as good as you in a specific area so that you can give your ego a boost. Avoid this kind of “self validation”.

You may get a temporary ego boost from a self validation comparison but this can backfire on you very badly. If you don’t know the person that you are comparing to very well then you have no idea what they are capable of. If you challenge them and they end up being better than you at your specialty then this can destroy your self esteem.

Think about why you want to make the comparison. Let’s say that you want to be a successful business manager and there is a manager in your office who always seems to make the right decisions and has the level of confidence that you want to achieve.

You want to find out how they got to their position and how they maintain their confidence. This is specific intent and you are in the right frame of mind to make the comparison. You are not jealous that this person is a manager and you are not. It is all about learning from the person so that you can improve your life.

Consume other relevant information

The person in your office is not the only good business manager out there. Many have written books and some have their own blog. These days it is easier than it ever has been before to get the information that you need.

Once you have decided that you want to be a top notch business manager consume everything that you can about the subject and keep looking for new material. Modeling the business manager you know is a good step forward but you can always do more.

If you are not a fan of reading then go to YouTube and find relevant videos there. You will be sure to find what you are looking for. Also look for forums on your subject and join them and participate. Ask questions and most people will be happy to help.

Be careful of your Self View

You have a view about yourself that you formed over many years. This self view tells you that you things like you are smart, good looking, talented and so on. We all need this self view because it defines how you see the world around you and helps you to figure everything out.

The problem is that if you believe something in your self view and something challenges this then there is conflict. So if you believe that you know a lot about business and someone tells you that you need to learn more about business then this is difficult to take. Relax your self view and take on board any constructive criticisms.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Deepen Your Relationships and Enjoy Emotional Connection

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Feel more comfortable letting others in with the help of a relaxing Hypnotherapy session

Do you find it difficult to let your guard down in relationships?

Are you always playing it safe and not letting people know the real you?

Perhaps you've been hurt by betrayals of trust in the past. Or maybe childhood experiences taught you to keep an emotional distance from others.

And you might even just be looking to improve the strength of your current relationships.

Because us humans have a primal need for emotional connection with others.

We are a social species. And without that connection, we can end up feeling:

  • Lonely

  • Unfulfilled

  • As though something is missing.

And those feelings are our body's way of telling us when our needs are not being met, so that we can take action to rectify the situation.

Risks and rewards

And if you have trouble letting your guard down, it can be helpful to remember that you don't have to let someone in straight away.

You can take your time, moving at your own pace, getting to know them and building up that trust.

And it can be scary to let someone in. But you can do it in a way that allows you to remain in control of your emotions.

And you'll find that the more you allow that relationship to deepen, the more that relationship will nourish you, helping you meet those needs that make us human.

So that you can enjoy feeling understood and accepted by others at a deep level.

Practice makes perfect

So, how do you actually go about deepening your relationships?

Well the good news is that it is entirely possible, with a bit of practice and a willingness to be open and connected to another person.

Increase your comfort levels with hypnotherapy

  • Feel more relaxed during interactions

  • Feel more open and warm towards others

  • Are better able to spontaneously get to know others and ask the right questions.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Dealing with a Nervous Breakdown

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Deep relaxation can ease your stressed brain and give you back a sense of control and perspective

If you feel close to having a nervous breakdown right now you are probably feeling like you have hit rock bottom.

Many people who are close to a nervous breakdown feel a million miles from their real self.

Feelings of anger, negativity, exhaustion and anxiety are probably overwhelming you and your ability to lead a 'normal' life and have 'normal' relationships is no doubt proving tough.

The right approach can help quickly

Nervous breakdowns tend to happen due to a demanding lifestyle, stress, or as a result of dealing with trauma. Stress and anxiety can often lead to depression and feelings of being unable to cope.

You may feel at the moment that everything is a struggle and there is nothing positive in your life. However, treating a breakdown in the right way will allow you to come out the 'other side' of this an even better person.

Here's how I can help you…..

Relaxation is the key to recovery

Stopping for a while and taking time to relax when you feel things are getting too much will gradually allow your body and mind to start to feel refreshed and re-energized again. Regular relaxation will also help 'reset' your sleeping patterns which will help reduce your stress levels greatly.

A Hypnotherapy session will quickly make you feel calmer and happier, getting you back to the 'real you'. Being relaxed and knowing how to cope with stress and challenging situations will allow you to approach the future in a calmer and more confident way.

Getting back to the 'real' you

You can just imagine yourself now with the feeling of this renewed energy and confidence. With this, you will begin to enjoy those little things in life such as meeting up with a friend for a coffee, going shopping or spending time with your family; just like you used to.

When you feel more relaxed you will also be able to put up boundaries and set yourself limits so you don't have to deal with a breakdown again. As you start to feel calmer, things you currently find difficult to do will slowly become easier.

Just remember that right now you have just gone off track slightly and you just need to stop for a while to return back to the 'real you'. With this rest and revitalisation you will begin to see a brighter future.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Awaken Your True Calling

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6 Tips for Finding Your True Passion in Life

 There comes the point in everyone's life when they feel the intense urge to find your passion. Unfortunately, it can be difficult to see, and many of us become frustrated because we aren't where we genuinely want to be in our lives. If you feel frustrated by not being able to find your passion, here are seven useful tips to help you figure out your passion.

 Do Many Things

While it may feel a bit overwhelming to have a lot of interests, it is one of the most crucial steps to figuring things out. It is much better to have a lot of options and interests than none at all. Make a list of everything that you are interested in and focus on two to start. If you realize it’s not what you thought, scratch it off the list and move on.

 Stay True to Yourself

Stop doing what you hate just because you’ve already invested time and money into the pursuit. The secret to getting unstuck is to take the steps toward doing what you love. Don’t feel you have to be confined to a box and stop worrying about being defined by a single thing.

 Focus On Yourself

You can’t continue to compare your beginnings to someone else’s middle. You will never find your true passion in life if you are always watching and comparing your journey to the life of those around you. Focus on you and where you are in your journey and stop worrying about everyone else around you.

 Let Go of Fear

Fear will convince you to pass up opportunities because you can’t see past taking the first step. For you to find your passion, you will need to make big leaps of faith. Let go of that fear and dive in head first.

 Be Still

We tend to get confused with all the ideas, thoughts, and emotions that are swarming through our minds, leaving us to become frustrated because we can't see to figure our life out. Sometimes, we need just to do nothing to realize that what we are passionate about has been in front of us the entire time.

 Forget About the Money

Money shouldn't be the determining factor in what you do with your life. When you bring money into the equation, you will always end up doing something that you're not passionate about. When you are genuinely excited about something, you'll figure out how to make a living from it.

 Finding your true passion in life will take time. However, by following these six tips, you will find your passion before you know it.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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You Can Do It

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5 tips for better goal setting

 

We all have certain goals that we would like to achieve at different stages in our lives. However, not all of us are able to meet them.  Though we know what our goals are, we can’t bring ourselves to achieve them most of the times, because there is many a slip between the cup and the lip. More often than not, the reason for not meeting our goals is not setting a pre-defined path for the same. Here are five tips that we can all follow to set ourselves better goals and work towards achieving them within the specified timeframe.

1.      Choose goals that are valuable to you

Never set a goal because your friend or parent asked you to do so. You should always set goals that help you improve personally and professionally. Will I become a better human being when I achieve this goal? How will it improve my overall personality development? Will this goal help me in finding my core competency? These are some of the questions that you should think about when setting a goal, to be assured of 100% success while achieving them. When you set goals that add value to your lives and motivate you, you are more likely to work towards achieving them.

2.      Use the SMART method

Mostly, there is ambiguity in your minds while setting goals and achieving them, because you didn’t care enough for the small details. This is why following the SMART system is very important while setting goals. Specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-bound goals need to be set, irrespective of whether they are meant for personal or professional development. By following this technique, you are giving a defined structure to your goals and making them accurate, so that it becomes easy to achieve them.

3.      One step at a time

While it is important to focus on the big picture when setting goals, it is equally important to travel this path one step at a time. When you have a huge goal staring at you with a specified time-frame hanging over it, it may look all too daunting and intimidating for you. So, all you need to do is to break down the big goal into several smaller goals, so that it helps you concentrate more and  pursue each goal with ease and confidence.

4.      Write down your goals

It may seem to be a simple tip, but it helps! Write down all your goals with their time-frame on a chart paper and pin it in your room, so that you are constantly reminded of your goals, your progress and your path that is yet to be travelled. Writing down your priorities on a daily basis will also help you in managing your time effectively as you can only focus on those tasks that are important.

5.      Don’t be too hard on yourself

Setting goals and achieving them with 100% success rate is no mean task! You may not achieve 100% success in your first goal; however, you should never give up. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Give yourself a back-pat and carry on with your next attempt with renewed focus and lots of takeaways from your first attempt. After all, life is a journey that deserves to be enjoyed, isn’t it?

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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